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Catfish, for those of you who do not know, is a television series about people who meet online and they are lied to in some way as to the identity of the person they are speaking to. As well as those situations where the person puts up a fake picture of themselves, lies about who they are and some, consider it a game. Which is fucked up to toy with another human beings emotions in this way under any circumstance. It’s unthinkable to me.
Is it different when you are blogging and posting under an anonymous name? At some point, knowing a person for almost a year, one would want to see their face, to know who they were talking to. Some like the cloaked version where they feel safe to express things without fear of ramifications from those in their life. I understand. So… where is that line you draw in the sand, for yourself as to just how far you will allow things to go?
I used to come here, vent, chat, think, etc. It was quiet at first and then things picked up and went on from there. I’d never blogged anonymously before and for the most part, it was okay. If memory serves me, I initially started this to compile content for that book I say I’m going to write. It ended up being an outlet for all my thoughts.
Thereafter it became a cool place to come, talk, share and I made some nice friends, had great input and I thank you guys for that, it was all very helpful. Since the Catfish thing happened, I tried to think about it as, “Well, don’t allow a person to stop you from doing something just because one person hurt you.” I tried that and unfortunately the undertow of knowing what happened in this space remains. So, I’ve opened a different blog, which feels much better and I will continue the Catfish series here at my leisure. The undertow of coming here, the quiet reminder every time I see the page, it feels bad under the surface.
It’s like having a splinter where you get half of it out and then, the other end that you can not see, is still festering there under the surface. So, be that as it may, the only thing that belongs here “is” the Catfish story because in my mind, that’s how it feels.
I have gone on to make new friends online, who are very nice people. In the beginning however it was not easy, despite my ability to pretend and/or say that this situation did not affect me.
P.S. In case it crosses your mind, I thought I was much smarter than that too. Carry on. :)
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