You know? I’m totally a slut and a cunt to boot. I approve this message. lolol Someone put this word picture up yesterday and conversation ensued as to what a slut is or isn’t, how women do not like being called a slut, the men who are players and the double standard surrounding same. This double standard is not going to change any time soon. No, it’s not. In reality you’re better off doing what you want regardless of what anyone else thinks. More importantly, with all the bullshit in the world as to how many men a woman has slept with as to what makes her a whore, not to mention religious beliefs among other things, there’s all this shame and guilt attached to sex as well. Cuz lord knows she’s totally a slut if she does who she pleases, not to mention looking for permission to do it or should they do it, you know, experiment.
There was a video someone put within it, how they have rally’s about it. I did not know that. Who knew that? Here’s the link it was in London, I think. I watched it and I thought… well, now …
I watched the video in the link above. One person made a comment about how they were sexually violated (horrible) while wearing business attire and that she was not dressed like a “so called Slut”. Fine, however it leads into the perception of what a slut is and what a slut is not.
I’ve heard women call other women sluts on so many occasions as well as men calling women sluts. I personally do not care what a man or a woman’s preference is, as I have my own preferences. See, in this video, while I agree with the idea of getting rid of the double standard, my daughter will come home (and I correct her) and say something how some young girl (for all the wrong reasons in high school) is a slut. So… these things start very young. Not in my house as to the name calling, that’s unacceptable. I have no problem with a woman who does what she wants to do when she wants to do it, providing it’s because she DOES want to do it and hasn’t been preconditioned in some way.
OR the very real fact that there is another side to promiscuous behaviors wherein some women use sex to excel in life through sexual favors or as a career. i.e., strippers, pole dancers etc., things like that, so it ends up lending itself to other things. The concept, to me of slut is … like if you sleep with whomever you like, when you like or more importantly go after someone else’s man because then you’re definitely a slut as well as a home wrecker.I don’t see a problem with that, providing that’s what she wants to do. So the lines in all of this are blurred. I’m not saying that women ARE sluts, they are entitled to do what they want. If you do see a woman dressed in a sexy manner, other women will call her a slut. Trust me :) So, it has to be that not only men however women as well cut this shit out. And a man who is going to cheat, it going to cheat, it happens all the time. He didn’t need said “slut” to show up either.
I correct women constantly for this flaw. I view a woman who other’s call a slut as some what of a barracuda. She wants it, she gets it. Make no mistake, women can be players as well. Absolutely and they go about it making no apologies about it. It’s their life, go on now, do your thing over there and mind your own business. The only thing to worry about is STD’s and one would suggest those who are getting down and dirty make sure to be tested and be careful, you never know what you’ll catch or who your partner has been with either.See, I know in some instances that some women feel threatened by the sexuality of another woman who is “seemingly” more sexual, attractive or assertive than themselves. If they like her, there will be no female bashing, more importantly if they DO like her they will applaud her behavior for doing whatever she pleases and not answering to anyone but herself. If they do not like this woman and they feel threatened (self esteem, sexy, great body, overtly sexual) then all hell can break loose and women WILL and HAVE ganged up on women who they feel are more overtly sexual or have something they themselves do not.
And… perhaps they are, so if they’re that intimidated (which some definitely are) calling this sexy feline a slut is they’re way of dealing with their own insecurities. I find that to be unacceptable behavior. So the term/word “slut” will prevail … based on many, many, variables. Not to mention there are those women who slink up to any man, married, single, involved and don’t care. They’re definitely going to be called a slut. So if a woman is promiscuous what personal boundaries are applicable before a woman is viewed as a slut or a whore? What about gold diggers, bitches, women again who use their sexuality to get what they want.
Hell, some girls are dancers (i.e., strippers) and put themselves through college on that money. What about Hugh Heffner’s girls? Are they sluts too? What about Victoria’s Secret magazines? Porn… let’s get into porn, they’ve fucking for fun and getting paid for it, I think, personally it ruins them however that’s speculation on my part as to the emotional/mental ramifications of these careers as they lead to other things, however they’ll be fine because it’s a lifestyle and others are doing it to… so like what? If they stay within that group, that lifestyle, they’re all good right? As long as it’s kept OVER THERE we’re all good.
Some women are called sluts by their husband or boyfriend if they cheat and those women could be on guy number what? 3/4? I’m sorry you didn’t meet all her needs and she wanted to experiment, me’be you shoulda learned a new twist under the covers because not all men have the same skills in bed NOR are they good students either. Some are simply naturally talented. Yush!!! :) Does this infidelity make them as slut? Why did they cheat? This goes off onto many other things as well. We’ll stick to sluts or the idea of a slut then okay?
At the end of the day, it’s not my business what someone else is doing, nor is what I’m doingtheirs, if a human being is nice and not hurting anyone, go for it. If they’re doing it for all the wrong reasons? That’s when it becomes problematic. So.. you have as an example, these young girls in high school (i.e., who their classmates call sluts) who are promiscuous for all the wrong reasons, this stays with them throughout life … so there are all these variables as to why people/women do the things they do.
Some do it for the attention, some do it BECAUSE of the idea in their head that they’ve got one up on other girls, some do it because they want to be popular among other reasons.
OR the very real fact that there is another side to promiscuous behaviors wherein some women use sex to excel in life through sexual favors or as a career. i.e., strippers, pole dancers etc., things like that, so it ends up lending itself to other things… the concept, to me of slut is … like if you sleep with whomever you like, when you like.
I don’t see a problem with that, providing that’s what she wants to do. So the lines in all of this are blurred. I’m not saying that women ARE sluts, they are entitled to do what they want. If you do see a woman dressed in a sexy manner, other women will call her a slut. Trust me :) So… it has to be that not only men however women as well cut this shit out.
At the end of the day, it’s not my business what someone else is doing, nor is what I’m doing theirs, if a human being is nice and not hurting anyone … go for it. If they’re doing it for all the wrong reasons? That’s when it becomes problematic. So.. you have as an example, these young girls in high school (i.e., who their classmates call sluts) who are promiscuous for all the wrong reasons, this stays with them throughout life … so there are all these variables as to why people/women do the things they do.
Lots of thoughts. So little time. So many variables. I’m not particularly sensitive to the word myself however I don’t like it when I hear it based on the very real fact that some young ladies are/were/started being sexually promiscuous at a very young age. Some women get older, lose weight, become a cougar, get pissed and decide they’re going to fuck whomever they please. Okay, if that is what you really want, then do it. There’s no need to pay attention to what other people may think, say or do. HOWEVER the stigma or perspective as to being a slut prevails. I’m of the mind it always will.Men call women sluts. Many men like to know that the woman they are with haven’t slept with many men, almost like there’s a door prize for it or something. You know, Ohaaaeeey! She has to justify just how many men she’s slept with or she’s a whore or a slut or should be oh so ashamed.
Keeping this in mind men AND women are offending parties. So it becomes are people living up to their own expectations/standards in regards to the things they SO strongly believe. I have no malice mind you however it goes, to me, hand in hand with a person wanting to do what they want to do, however there are all these other variables for why a woman (or a man) would be considered a slut. As long as you are okay with what you are doing, you don’t have to justify it to anyone. If you’re doing it for the wrong reasons, think about it because many do, do such things for all the wrong reasons. You can only lie to yourselves for a while until it catches up to you.
So really at the end of the day … think about the things you do and the why of it all. Then decide who and what you wanna do (pun intended). Some people are self destructing, some have addictions, low self esteem, get an edge and use their sexuality to get what they want (as I’ve already mentioned) so… you be who you wanna be and you know? Me’be that slut over there has some good tips about sex. You may wanna ask her. Oh wait, there’s those closet freaks too… but she’s dressed conservatively. Who knew?
Oh and have a good day, where ever you are and be good to each other. :)