My laymen’s interpretation of Cognitive Therapy … (originally posted 8/16/12)
Is so you can work through emotions, feelings, life experiences and think better overall about your life, yourself, and others due to what someone else did to you, due to what someone else did to them which they perpetuate through their own bad behaviors down onto someone else.
In the best case scenario’s it can be used and twisted around to make everything someone else’s fault, because we are, after all that truly intelligent to take something intended for good and use it as a self protective mechanism to serve us in the here and now.
Albeit, others do bad things. We know this and yes, they have not had any therapy and they are out there doing more things to more people, because of what someone else did to them and the worst case scenario’s are that others learn that life is hard, full of challenges and we learn to become more understanding and compassionate. Mind you, it’s all good… it’s all about forgiveness and rearranging our brains to make sense of senseless things and behaviors from others and then ultimately, we hope, to make sense of what we’re doing and why.
Then we get to the how do we get over what “they” are doing, which is really healthy. Very nice. And what’s most interesting to me is we rely on Karma and all those quotes saying how karma will get this person or that person and in part, I think this is true because what happens is that if we are not paying attention, we can carry what other people have done to one another into the rest of our life and then, we make sense of it for ourselves later on down the line when most realize and/or recognize that they could be their own worst enemy.
Why? Because the mind is kind. It buries bad experiences to be triggered (i.e., strong emotional reactions) to things in the present that we haven’t thought about in years. Yet the mark remains and what we have the ultimate pleasure of doing in the here and now is figuring out “how that makes you feel” and then even further in this gleeful process … We get to what?
Grow from it.
Versus not having gone through any of that to begin with. And here’s the thing, humans come out designed to have their needs met. Period. And throughout life they can learn healthy and non healthy ways to accomplish this. Life experience takes over we graduate to coping mechanisms, we graduate to how to reframe things, oooooh… how nice and we learn to forgive.
In the best case scenario’s we learn to use our intellectual minds to protect us from the very things we really want and deserve as human beings, however “first” you must learn all these lessons no matter what your good intentions were to begin with through life experience. The good, the bad and the ugly.
While I recognize that people are put through bad things, develop these methods to move through what life has tossed at them and we can certainly change how we think … I’ll go back to my first thought process above.
“(Cognitive therapy) Is so you can work through emotions, feelings, life experiences and think better overall about your life, yourself, and others due to what someone else did to you, due to what someone else did to them which they perpetuate through their own bad behaviors down onto someone else.”
You just gotta love psychology.
I’m all for personal growth and improvement and all those great things that we have at our disposal to help US get over what someone ELSE has done. I am … because there would be a lot of miserable people in the world without it. Yet… it just struck me this morning as … “fascinating”.
We will go back to our regularly scheduled programming of using it for “good” shortly. Thank you.